Summer holidays are the best!

I am so lucky, I now only work during term time. So I get to have 5 whole weeks off with my 3 little rascals!

We are a little over half way in and we have had some lovely days. We have been to some workshops that have been either free or rather cheap at local places. Today was pirate Lego making. 

I took Marley and my nephew, Cole along with my partner and his son. They are all similar ages so was a good boys day which promoted working as a team as well as individual little projects. The boys all seemed to really enjoy it! 

We have also been to messy play workshops where the children have potato printed onto material and then turned the material into little bags! Such a sweet idea. 

It’s been so nice to see the older girls enjoy the little things and being creative and silly again. School really does seem to have an effect on them which makes them act older than their years. Now I feel like I have children again instead of mini teenagers, I definatly have to keep on top of the activities that keep them creative and young. 



Forever Friends?

I am a young mom, 19years old when i had my first, 20 when i had my second. Just 11 months between them! Crazy woman i am! By the time i was 23 i had a home a husband and my 3rd baby. I dont think it was just being young that made the transition hard, i think for any woman it is the people around you. Out of my friends i was the first to have a child, which meant our priorities were so different it was hard to find common ground. I was not interested in parties, pulling, doing a season abroad or any of those things and my friends certainly were not intrested in teething, weaning or what nappy creams work best! I found myself feeling isolated from people my own age. I tried going to baby groups but i found i felt so much judgement from older moms, i believed it was because i was young, and maybe they didnt think they would have anything in common with me, not that anyone would say that. Struggling to find the group i ‘belonged’ to, i stopped trying and before i knew it years had passed and all these relationships had changed, they were strained and abit awkward. Around the time i had my 3rd, others around my age started having their first babies. People started talking to me more, some would ask me for advise over facebook and would now comment on how well i had done because being a mom isnt always so easy and now they saw that for themselves and needed the support from like minded moms too. Now, i am 29, i have a small but strong group of friends of different ages, situations and family unit set ups. Parenting and friendships can be the best mix ever, but also can be really difficult. I had a friend who did pop round once in a blue moon and it wasnt an awkward meeting, but once she had her own, our parenting styles were miles apart. I find it can be really difficult to seperate friendships when you are parents whos standards and/or parenting styles are so different. Small differences are obviously much easier to go over your head. I do think eventually you find your way, some people are just passing through your life, it may be them teaching you something or you teaching them. Sometimes friends arent forever and you drift apart but stay intouch or maybe not,  meeting people is all learning, and learning is always good. We always find a small group we can rely on eventually. Just dont give up talking to and meeting people! Kx

Dear Betty

Dear Betty,

 Our lovely old nieghbour, you made us feel so very welcome when me and my little family first moved in to our little flat in four oaks. Im sure at first glance you must have wondered what kind of nieghbours we would be, a young couple, early 20s with a baby and heavily pregnant. But you didnt judge, and even though making your way up and down the stairs was hard for you, you still made your way to introduce yourself and offer any help you could give. I remember that well.

As the years went by, we spoke most days. Sonetimes just in passing, others would be longer chats sitting in the communal gardens while the children played and your little dog, poppet, hid under your chair eventually running around with the children like an excited puppy.

I loved your stories, especially when you went to australlia on holiday and didnt come back for 16years! I could really imagine you as an adventurous young woman. You certainly always looked like a beautiful, happy, young lady in your photos. I wish we hadnt got distracted so often and had to cut the story telling short.

7years on, my little family had out grown our little flat and we were moving on to our new home. It was such a stressful time, Laila had caught scarlet fever, we had to keep her away from you as your health wasnt what it used to be. Then the move came, 10days before christmas and the children were starting their new school. I promised we would come back and visit you soon. I know, i did leave it longer than either of us expected. This is now regret i have to live with. 

We did come back Betty, mid jan. I was so worried when you didnt answer, i had a feeling something wasnt right. We asked round to make sure you was safe and well and for someone to let you know we would be back soon. Then we were told the new that you had passed, 2weeks earlier. We were all heart broken. Marley took it very hard, he was just 4 and you were like another nanny to him. Even now, nearly 2years later, we still talk about you and miss you very much. I wish we had atleast got one more visit in before you had to leave forever. I hate to think you thought we had forgotten. Please forgive me, i hadnt forgot. I just let life get in the way.

I know you are at peace now with your son. And we will all meet again. You really did make an imprint in our lives. We love you and miss you. Poppet too! 

Love always, Kelly, Laila, Hallie and Marley xxxxx